Christian dating as friends
We’ve all wondered about it, discussed it with our friends and drawn our own conclusions.
Some say, “Yes, of course it is possible, I have lots of great friends of the opposite gender and while sometimes attraction exists, we are mature enough to handle it and not let it get in the way.” Others say “No, you are crazy, when the relationship gets too personal eventually one party will develop romantic feelings for the other, and if their desire to be more than ‘just friends’ is one-sided it will ruin everything.”I think this complicated question deserves a complicated answer.
As a relatively young (32) and single divorced mama, I fell into the habit of keeping a little group of male admirers around who I considered to be just friends.
I had the older mentor friend who I let take me to dinner, concerts and even a Christian Single Parents Retreat (he footed the bill for my kids and me to go).
Women often believe the opposite sex can be “just friends” until a relationship goes sour, at which point they look back and ponder what went wrong.
A Lesson Learned I learned the “just friends” lesson the hard way.
I had stopped by to pick up a book I needed for a writing project and decided to stay and work with him a while.
It was quiet and peaceful and he was bent intently over his work.
We girls like to think only men are guilty of playing the “hanging out” card, but I was certainly responsible for the same game by justifying the relationship as a non-romantic one.Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.I venture to say that we all have friends of the opposite sex who have helped make us better people and we are grateful for their presence in our life.When it comes to the question of if men and women can be friends I think the key is in our definition of friendship.