Dating a single mom with an infant
Updated to add: The use of the term ‘single mother’ is not exactly accurate. If you screw up and get pregnant, don’t screw up even more and bring an innocent child along with you! Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either.
If you are a mother and you are collecting child support, you are not a single mother. The rest of us who have to LIVE with your fucked up, emotionally scarred children will PAY you to have a fucking abortion. Second, single mothers are clearly really, really shitty at making life decisions. You both put each other’s happiness above your own. Now divorced mothers, who are a breed of single mothers, MIGHT be a little different, but whenever you approach one, sing this little song in your head: it takes two to tango. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that?
I am not looking for lectures on why I shouldn't date (especially since I haven't totally decided I am going to yet)...
I'm just looking to hear from others who started dating when their child was still young (under a year) and how it went, etc...
If you ever find yourself referring to a woman whose husband died on a battlefield as a single mother, you should immediately pour Tabasco sauce into your eyes, because you deserve to weep all the tears I’m certain she has.
I couldn’t bring myself to have kids in a marriage where doing so would obliterate any chance I had to build something for myself.
Please don't beat yourself up about having the desire to date my thought is "happy mom = happier baby" so do what makes you happy while still putting your child's needs first.
(like you are doing) At the end of the day the only reason I have not dated yet is because of how attached my dd & I are.
Has anyone been sucessful dating and finding someone understanding enough of all the needs of an infant?
Right now I don't even have any regular baby sitters and really don't feel comfortable leaving her with someone for more then 2-3 hours. I'm not looking to jump into some serious relationship or anything like that but it would be nice to have someone as it's been 9 months since I've dated anyone.