Grief dating again
One is ready to date again whenever solitude gives way to loneliness.It is natural to want a partner, but the partner is not a substitute.“One should wait until THEY feel they are ready.I buried this idea along with the letter knowing I would re-enter the dating scene in my own time. I was by myself at the grocery store and I looked up to find a man watching me with an interested look in his eye. I called him and asked him what he thought about me dating. I’m so happy you are considering it.” Her response wasn’t what I expected, but from both her and my father-in-law’s answers I felt better about moving forward.
Are you concerned about having to tell a potential date that you are a widow – and worry about possible reactions to this?That you recognise their kindness and appreciate their efforts but you are not ready for a relationship yet.(You may want to add when you do feel like finding a relationship you will let them know and you are looking forward to their help in the future).And is it fair that a griever has to cope with this tremendous grief while also answering questions from family and friends about whether they plan to date again?Or is it fair that a griever may face judgement from those who think that they aren’t ready to date or believe they shouldn’t? Just as every person is unique, so is their reaction to the losses they face.