Rebound guy dating
It lasted a full year and was thrilling, wonderful and dysfunctional. It served as a critical point of reference through which I dealt with the dissolution of my marriage.
When that relationship ended, it hurt like a motherfucker! I just called off a month-long liaison with a man so recently divorced that his clothes were still packed in the suitcases with which he removed them from his marital home.
My need to still retrieve some kind of information about my past love was overpowering the focus I should have had on being present with someone new, proving to me I wasn’t quite ready to appreciate the emotional availability of this new dude.
You fantasize about running into your ex with your new date Everyone has had this fantasy at some point: You show up with a wonderful new partner to your ex’s chagrin.
While it's totally possible to meet a new sweetie you genuinely like, most people who go through a tough breakup need a good amount of time to themselves to get over their ex before they can move onto someone new.
Your fantasy includes using someone without regard to their feelings in order to rub another person’s nose in something you’re not that into in the first place all for an intended brief moment of satisfaction. Case in point: There’s an episode of “Sex and the City” where Carrie starts to cry when the hot Yankee player kisses her right after they run into Big.
Believe me, I know that my take on the issue is controversial among other matchmakers and dating coaches. When someone feels happier and more comfortable in a relationship, why should they force themselves to stay single?
By getting right back out there they will be saving themselves from sitting alone agonizing over what went wrong in their last relationship.
And sometimes they take it even a little further and find themselves in a rebound relationship. To put it simply, it’s basically a distraction to keep a guy or girl from thinking about their recent breakup.
If a guy goes into a rebound relationship, he’s looking for a quick way to get over his ex by being with someone else.