On the one hand, I believe that marriage isn’t the end-game of life.
I believe that you can live a happy, fulfilling life as a single person (after all, both Jesus and Paul stayed single).
In the worst of times, we suddenly remember, "Ah, what if I asked God for help? Sometimes the answer is "Lean on me, and you will survive and thrive." Future Wife, whom do I have on earth but you? My heart may fail, and my spirit may grow weak, but you and God will remain the strength of my heart forevermore. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh.
For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out.
With the help of Cher and her lipsticked posse, I learned the game of love has a lot of rules: getting love requires a wide selection of outfits and a plan, you don’t show all your cards, you can’t text back too quickly, shopping heals most wounds, and you only want the people you can’t have.
Of course, I can watch this movie two decades later and enjoy it with much more thoughtful commentary. As a single, twenty-something Christian, I have to sort through a lot of mixed messages about romantic love.
For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh.
I’ve been lucky to witness this example of love from my parents, my aunts and uncles, and all my cousins.
But even after a string of failed relationships, false starts, and broken hearts, I can say proudly, happily, wildly, that I believe in love.
I only say those relationships “failed” because they didn’t end up in me finding my life-partner.
I believe that truly fulfilling love comes from God and can be experienced through multiple channels including your immediate family, friends, the Church.
On the other hand, most of my best friends are married before the age of 24.